We find a relationship and feel some true love and we are very happy. For a while. Then some conflict or distance or routine settles in and we seem to lose it some.

How do we keep true love going in a relationship long term? How do we keep from losing this true love which can be so hard to ever find?

There are lots of answers to questions of keeping true love. It is not a simple or one answer fits all type of issue.

One cut at learning to keep the true love you find is to take off your mask. Be real and genuine with your mate. You can’t keep true love if you are inauthentic.

Now, of course, we all wear masks in our daily lives. One example of a mask is being a “good girl.” You try to please your man, you try to avoid conflict, you focus on being a good follower and a helpful partner. Another type of mask could be “I don’t need anybody, I’m strong and independent.” You try to handle everything yourself and appear strong and invulnerable.

Such masks can get in the way in our love life. If you are a good girl all the time and don’t take off that mask, you can get taken for granted and give all the time while receiving nothing. If you don’t stand up for yourself you could get minimized.

Or if you are wearing the strong independent type mask you can end up shutting your partner out, and you need to let them in by being vulnerable and needing your mate from time to time.

We need to learn to take off our masks with our partners. True love cannot grow in a relationship that is not genuine and based on the truth. Wearing a mask all the time, trying to put on your best persona, will kill off true love because you have to be real and honest to keep love going strong.